I have heard it all. Nothing shocks me anymore.
But the other day when a client said, “oh, that’s not who I am at work,” it really stuck with me.
You see, she was telling me a story about something that happened in her personal life. She was excited and energized.
When I asked how she could bring this same energy to her work, she said those eight words that just hung in the air.
“Oh, that’s not who I am at work.”
She felt it too, giggled nervously, and then said, “that’s not a good thing, is it?”
Do you feel this way? Many of us do.
There seems to be a lack of truth in the workplace.
I don’t mean people are “lying” at work. Well, actually, we kind of are lying because we aren’t bringing our true selves to work every day.
Let me explain what I mean.
It is easy to get distracted and caught up in our job title, roles, and responsibilities. The problem is that these are just illusions and are not the truth of who we really are.
Our role and focus at work can be consuming and yes, restricting sometimes. This prevents us from not only fully showing up but also growing, expanding, and evolving into our full truth.
So, what is our truth? Our truth is our talents, gifts, and ultimate purpose. It is how we are being called to serve our clients, vendors, and each other. Truth comes from a place deep within and is not printed on your business card.
What is the reason we are not bringing our true selves into the workplace?
Bottom line. We are fearful.
Fearful of not being accepted. Not fitting in. Saying something stupid. Not being good enough. Creating conflict.
We get caught up in the culture and norms of the organization, we see ourselves competing for resources, we avoid conflict, and keep our ideas and opinions to ourselves.
Does any of this resonate? Have you seen this too? Maybe felt it yourself?
This is something that I’ve witnessed time and time again but it just hit me how prevalent and unhealthy this is, for the individual and the workplace.
Please share your comments below. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.